Staring blankly out that car window as we crossed the bridge, I knew our marriage was over. 

Tears spilled down my cheeks as I looked down at the old abandoned boats sitting in the water below.

They were faded, stripped of anything valuable or worth resale.  They were abandoned there by the owners who once loved them, who spent time waxing, polishing and caring for them.  They sit alone, unwanted, having been replaced by new brighter, sexier models that go faster and look better.

Much like the partners cast aside when a marriage no longer suits a spouse.

Being the one who is left when a marriage fails is debilitating.  Like the abandoned boats, it seems no one cares anymore. Your family tries to console you , your friends say you are better off without him.    

None of this helps your brokenness. 

Only someone who has been through it can relate to the complete loss of self-worth. 

You invested your heart and soul in this relationship- sometimes years or decades of time, energy and emotion, only to be left holding the ruins of your former life.

How do you survive this? 

Your life has become uncertain, your foundation of beliefs has corroded, and yet you must carry on- go to work, take care of your children, maintain an outward appearance, while inside you curl into a tiny ball and weep uncontrollably.

And then you call me.  

See, I have been there.  I can understand exactly what you are feeling.  And I can assure you, we will get through this together.  I have the answers to help you cope.  

How do I know?  

Because I have been through this twice: two marriages ending in divorce plus all the relationships that did not work out in between. 

Instead of falling apart, I chose to dive head first into my heartbreak and discover what I was doing wrong and how to fix it.  I examined the beliefs around love and marriage that no longer worked for me. I found my blocks to feeling lovable. 

And it must have worked because today I am living my dream life with the LOVE OF MY LIFE! 

I won’t joke, it takes work, hard soul-searching work to uncover your internal belief system about love.     But getting to the heart of your pain and then shifting your perspective to healing and away from pain is the first step.  And I promise you the results are worth every minute.  

My program, “90 days to Love,” will find YOU, the person you are meant to be, experiencing the love you are meant to have.  Then we Find Him- designing your ideal partner, who is everything you want in a lover/mate, to help you focus on who you are attracting.  Finally, we discover what your life will be with that ideal partner-targeting the dream relationship you deserve!

Now is your chance to break the old habits and beliefs holding you back from that love!

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Hi, I'm Rebecca

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As a twice divorced, mother of a heavenly son, stepmother, entrepreneur, author and speaker, I guide women through the traumas of life changes to reach a place of happiness and joy again.


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